When someone has a sharply different viewpoint from our own, we naturally choose two common ways: avoiding the conversation or trying to convince them that they are wrong. Research shows there is a better choice—using receptive language, which means showing we are truly interested in new points of view.
Many of us try to avoid disputed(有争议的) discussions and prefer talking with people who hold similar opinions. We wrongly believe that communicating with those who disagree with us will be extremely unpleasant. When we have to talk with others who have different views, we always try to make them give up their beliefs to "win" the argument. Unfortunately, the other side will do the same, making the problems harder to solve.
A more effective method is being conversationally receptive. Studies show that the receptive attitude makes our arguments more convincing, and makes people more willing to accept our ideas. It also makes us more popular and improves our cooperation with others.
Researchers put forward three practical tips to improve conversational receptiveness. First, recognise the other person's point of view to show that we value their opinions. Second,
hedge at your statements—we'd better not express our views in a direct and forceful(强硬的) way, so that our ideas can be better accepted. Third, express our arguments in a polite and acceptable way instead of using rude words.
By following these tips, we can communicate more effectively and bridge the differences with others smoothly.
任务一 阅读理解
1. According to the passage, being conversationally receptive can lead to
A
.
A. better communication
B. creative opinions
C. clear confidence
D. different opinions
2. The words "hedge at your statements" probably mean "
C
".
A. explain your reasons clearly
B. raise your questions politely
C. voice your ideas less forcefully
D. express your excuses more directly
3. What is the writer's main purpose in writing this passage?
A. To stress the importance of productive communication.
B. To introduce a better way to deal with disagreements.
C. To explain the reasons for using receptive language.
D. To provide three effective tips for winning an argument.
4. Where can you most possibly read this article?
A. In a science book.
B. In a storybook.
C. In a social science magazine.
D. In a guidebook.
任务二 回答问题(答案不超过 10 个词)
What do you think of receptive language? Why do you think so?
It's useful, because it makes my ideas sound more convincing.
