$解:(3)若点Q(n+1,2n-3)与点P互为$
$“方格点”,\ $
$①|n+1|=4且|2n-3|<4,\ $
$∴n+1=±4,n=-1±4,\ $
$∴n=-5或n=3.\ $
$当n=-5时,|2n-3|=|-5×2-3|=13>4(舍去);$
$当n=3时,|2n-3|=|2×3-3|=3<4,$
$∴n=3.\ $
$②|2n-3|=4且|n+1|<4,\ $
$∴2n-3=±4,n=\frac{1}{2}(3±4),\ $
$∴n=-\frac{1}{2}或n=\frac{7}{2}.$
$当n=-\frac{1}{2}时,|n+1|=|-\frac{1}{2}+1|=\frac{1}{2}<4;\ $
$当n=\frac{7}{2}时,| n+1|=|\frac{7}{2}+1|=\frac{9}{2}>4(舍去),\ $
$∴n=-\frac{1}{2}\ $
$③|n+1|=4且|2n-3|=4,\ $
$∴n=-5或n=3,且n=-\frac{1}{2}或n=\frac{7}{2},$
$∴n无解.$
$综上所述,n=一\frac{1}{2}或n=3.$